Grief and loss counselling in Nottingham
I'm Mandy van Zwam, a psychotherapeutic counsellor, and I offer counselling and psychotherapy for adults living with grief and loss, in Beeston, Nottingham, and online across the UK. Grief has no timetable. We won't try to get you over it. We look for a way for you to carry it.
My private practice opens in early 2027. Sessions cost £80 for 50 minutes, in person or online, and we start with a free 20-minute discovery call. Until then, Cruse Bereavement Support offers free support by phone and online, and your GP can help too. Nottinghamshire Hospice runs free bereavement groups that anyone grieving can drop in to.
What does grief feel like?
Sometimes like sadness, often like something else: exhaustion, anger, guilt, numbness, or forgetting for a second and then remembering. It comes in waves and catches you in the supermarket. The people around you may expect you to be doing better by now, and you may expect it of yourself.
Not every loss is a death. The end of a relationship, a miscarriage, a diagnosis, a career that ended, a country you left, a parent who is still alive but no longer who they were. People tend to recognise these losses less, which can make them harder to grieve.
How can grief counselling help?
Grief needs somewhere to go. You may have nowhere you can talk about the person or the thing you lost without someone changing the subject, or without worrying about upsetting them. In therapy you can say all of it, including the parts that don't fit a tidy story: relief, resentment, the argument you never settled.
I work relationally, and my training is in transactional analysis, which pays attention to how earlier losses and old rules about feelings, such as "be strong" or "don't cry", shape how you grieve now. A new loss can stir up an old one. We take whatever comes, at the pace you set.
Is this the right help for me?
Therapy with me suits people who want room to understand their grief as well as live with it. If grief has turned into days you can't get through, heavy drinking, or thoughts of harming yourself, please see your GP as well. If you are having thoughts of ending your life, please don't wait: call Samaritans on 116 123 at any hour, or 999 if you are in danger now.
What happens next?
My private practice opens in early 2027, and you can join the waitlist now. When a place comes up, we start with a free 20-minute discovery call to talk about what is happening for you and whether working together feels right. If it does, we meet weekly for 50 minutes, in person in Beeston or by video from anywhere in the UK. You can talk about who or what you lost from the very first session, or wait until you are ready.
You can read more about me and my training, see what therapy costs, or read common questions about sessions and confidentiality.
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Common questions
How soon after a death should I come to therapy?
There is no right time. Some people want to talk straight away. Others find the first weeks are about getting through, and the need to talk comes months or years later. You can join the waitlist whenever it feels right.
Can we work in Dutch?
Yes. Grief often speaks your first language. Therapy in Dutch.
Where I see clients in and around Nottingham
In person at Highfields Therapy in Beeston (NG9), a short tram, train or bus ride from Chilwell, Attenborough, Bramcote, Stapleford, Wollaton, Lenton and West Bridgford. Online by video anywhere in the UK.